Yeah, well, they abandoned you from the moment your mom moved into your stepdad's home. They took you from your biological family (whatever the circumstances were) and legally brought you into their family. that is the best sorry you can give. He came home one day and out of the blue announced he was done with me and our marriage. I'm trans and had surgery last January, and had 2 revision surgeries after that. NTA - its seems very recurring here actually. I could manage ghosting everyone except my little broHonestly it bothers me so much I don't talk about it in therapy or even think about it day to day but its one of those things thats always in the back of my mind making me feel like I don't deserve anything good. Me and my mom were terrible to my dad. -He told me he was letting himself die of cancer because of a vivid dream he thinks is prophetic. i abandoned my family pt 3. As far as I know, they are still together but I am no longer part of their family. My 'son' and 'daughter' deserve a good life so I TL;DR I divorced my life to avoid a secret reciprocated romantic relationship with my best friend because we're both guys. I abandoned my Exgf and her friends in another city after I caught her cheating. My friend made a post thanking me and my boss And my family saw it and it started a stream of calls and messages from my family. I'm a good person and so is my family. Fortunately we had help, my family and Lucy's family supported us in any way posible, her parents were so ashamed for their daughter's actions that they couldnt look me to the face without apologize for everything she did. Three days for the smell to go away and a few more days for me to forgive everyone for being SO UNCARING! Which they are, and no they don't deserve my grace, but I am so nice. Abandoned by my adoptive family. 74. Well this is basically the same thing. S. A lot of men resent paying child support. So, my boys had no chance. You were right and you werent asking for much. They will be disappointed and will be shocked by my decision. Me and my ex wife had 3 kids together 8 years ago she snuck away while we were out shopping with our kids one night. -My dad denied me the opportunity to have my mother in my life and told me she abandoned me. Not the daughter. The one who hasn't spoken a word to me since I came out 10 years ago and pretty has pretended like I do not exist ever since) Father: Yes it's me. Mum divorced him for serious reasons she never divulged. The wife deserves what she is getting. And so, yeah, if you get abandoned, maybe I am an ahole but other times I may have noticed what your intent was. My biological family is unknown. If you need to leave, then you need to leave. In my house it goes on FOREVER for about a week. My mother met my father and after 8 years of lovey dovey they had me. Your mother packed your suitcase and left it at the door. He promised to be home by 10 and ring me but wasn’t. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Abandoning my family will mean that family will go in debt because of me. My surgery was on the mainland and I live with my parents It reminds me of something from my family's history. Cuz they never acted like parents in the least. You did the hard thing and stood up for yourself and Im proud of you. They only ever came back into your life, not because they were wracked with guilt, not because they wanted to make it up to you and try to be a family, but because they want your money. My parents were married for 10 years before they had me (24F), after my brother (26M) who is 2. They started bashed me to extended family who also started messaging me insulted me I abandoned my children when they were kids and I have no regrets. My daughter is doing well. Growing up, my mother abused me. One of my cousins did something like this to her little sister when she had a drinking problem after her divorce. I was adopted at about the age of three in Kenya. I'm planning on divorcing my husband, and giving up custody of my last five kids. She then went to a different state across the country to “visit” him, leaving me in an apartment by myself for a whole month at 14. Life is meant to be lived moving forward, not back. So we're struggling to approach a subject with pretty much anyone including our psychologist. This is not meant as a guilt trip. original sound - Best Reddit Stories. Wtf, I can relate so much. It's a classic thing that narcissists do. my friend who i helped get situated abandoned me. 77 Likes, TikTok video from Best Reddit Stories (@redditfeedstories): "I abandoned my family because they deserve it #redditfeedstories #redditstories #reddit_tiktok #minecraftparkour #abuse". 1K votes, 342 comments. ” i helped my friend get his life settled, and he abandoned me. Well, maybe they treated their children so badly they want nothing to do with them. When I got pregnant (we lived together and worked together)him and his mother doubted me that if I am truly pregnant or not. (Yeah It was my father. A judge will not be happy with him resigning from his job just to get out of paying and will impute income. Because my dad died too so I know what it’s like to grow up without a dad and I feel so sorry for my sisters. and she said "Oh my son is too young to be a father. I abandoned my family because they deserved it #redditstories #reddit #redditstorytimes #redditreadings #as #fyp #viralvideo. original sound - Reddit Videos. Tell them you understand this is a huge shock, but you would love to get to know them since your dad isn't interested in building a relationship. She definitely deserved it. You don't owe them shit. Oh you made me feel really good and said things for me. But it is a lie. I spent so long “protecting” my parents and literally had no idea that the abuse that was happening didn’t happen to everyone. When they divorced, she was illegally in this country and lived in a women's shelter. She then started saying she was gonna marry him, MY DEAD FATHERS BEST FRIEND. They could have at least announced it to the community to get someone to take the cat in, saying they "accidentally" left the cat behind. If so, I hope you/they are okay and remember that the children never asked for this. so when friend, we'll call him 'Baheej. Just found out that my bio dad never abandoned me. Leave him there for an hour. I would not even bother. I (26f) have an autistic sister (10f) who have been abandoned by our parents because, well, to quote them "They want to live their own lives". The one who truly upholds those ties is the one who does so even if they break off the relationship. They berated me yelling how family should come first (These are the same people who kicked me out at 16) They even suggest I try to take it back from my friend as family should come first. Firstly thank you! I still get a lot of support via PM from here. Feeling abandoned by my family. They do not know about my plans and I would hurt them Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Expert_Individual185. Crypto OP, listen to this advice. I had a mental breakdown a few months ago and I feel like all of the people I felt were my friends abandoned me. family. GameStop Moderna Pfizer Johnson & Johnson AstraZeneca Walgreens Best Buy Novavax SpaceX Tesla. Reply. Of course I showed. I don’t However, have those sympathies for the ones who were abusive, manipulative Teens who have been abandoned by their parents are still at higher risk of self-loathing, depression and anxiety, eating disorders, and other psychological issues. Right when he died when I was 13, my mother decided to start talking to his best friend. They cried. stories): “I abandoned my family because they deserved it #redditstories #reddit #redditstorytimes #redditreadings #askreddit This story may be adapted for more entertainment. You haven't spoken one word to me in 10 years. Because according to her, that was just going to confuse them. The guilt for going NC is significantly less but it still pops up from time to time I feel like maybe I didn't have it that bad compared to others… Continue to love and support her. Throwaway account. They have never met my wife and kids. Fake names also. But he Your family are ready to "forgive" him because they didn't do shit to make up the slack, you did. In August, I was on vacation with my family. My mom's side of the family was miners and ranchers and my father's side own an oil and natural gas company. I'm sorry, but this isn't an issue that needs to be solved. I respect that you want to leave on the ETM, it is a strategy for sure, just like I may decide to screw you up for not "My mom and dad abandoned me when I discovered at 18 years old that I was an affair baby. But child support is a benefit to the child, a duty of the parent to contribute, and shouldn't be abandoned by the custodial parent for the sake of pride or whatever. If what you want is peace and to be left alone, you deserve peace and to be left alone. There are alot of old folk who get dropped off by their kids to a retirement home and never see them again, just because it’s most convenient, this is obviously cruel and heartless. This may end up super vague so, bear with me. 5K Likes, 598 Comments. He accidentally butt dialled me at 10 and was with a girl and said to her, “I think I’m Because they are toxic. So I had eating away at me for a long time but I didn't want to really say anything at first but all these AITA posts just gave me a lot of courage that I wasn't sure I had so I decided to ask my bio dad why he never tried to see me after the last time I saw him and I told him that my ex My STBX husband abandoned me emotionally six months ago and physically three months ago. You deserve to be loved unconditionally, and treated well. However, he wanted nothing at all to do with my brother. ” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5645). Gynyu sees me right as I leave and becase of that, he also sees my teammate that I left behind. But something I do for fun and because I love and have a passion for it is cooking. What ensued was three months of sheer hell wherein he claimed to be "trying" to fix our marriage but was actually texting another woman and just going through the ADMIN MOD. I loved growing up in a multi-cultural family, despite not knowing which country I am from. ADMIN MOD. Feeling abandoned and dangerous. They were only financially supporting me because they felt obligated to. Your abusers will try to tell you that their cruelty is YOUR fault. Different people have different objectives and if you don't like that someone didn I will keep this as short as possible but I'm leaving my son and daughter as I discovered my wife had an affair with my brother and both my children aren't mine, I was very suicidal after finding out the truth and I was close but I was too scared at the same time and I didn't want my wife to win. She is doing what kids are here to do want something from you. I can see him forgetting his son even if he lives with him. My parents abandoned my sister, now I need to be the parent she does not have anymore. People are so weird on reddit. I’m sure he would appreciate if you took that attitude into developing a new relationship with him. It’s wrong to have a kid’s great aunt look after him occasionally when grandpa is the legal guardian, but it’s ok for an unemployed dead beat day to leave the kid alone while dad fucks around. Not just tolerated. Make him think he's being abandoned. Recently we were the best we’ve been since we were kids. I had cooked before but nothing like the last three years. I started cooking for myself 3 years ago. Some keys deserve to be abandoned. I tried to unalive myself and ended up in a mental ward for a few days. It sounds like both my parents were extremely young and both sides of the family were disappointed that they were pregnant so young since they both had full ride scholarships. You do deserve a family. She kicked you out. . ( I do not have a good relationship with my family. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you… Best friend abandoned me. I am a current college student working hard to be top of my class, and so I work really hard everyday and spend most days working on assignments and projects, weekdays and weekends. true. He was always at work, but when he was home he would stick up for me when he saw it happen. It’s not money for you, it’s money for your kid. I went to the funeral because I didn't want to have never been in a room with my mother but I'd never planned on connecting with anybody. Get a lawyer. THEY adopted YOU because THEY wanted a boy. She treated him like he was the abuser, throwing around words like “Weaponized Incompetence 228 Likes, TikTok video from Reddit‘s Stories (@reddits. Tough shit to them. Few nights ago I met him at his work since I called and asked if he’d like to grab drinks since I was in the area and he agreed. You guys are amazing. Any other way that your mom has spun it, isn't your fault either. " Don't hide their shameful behavior for them. My brother and I would spend every other weekend with our Dad, and I honestly don't have any bad memories of those times. 4 month uppdate: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it. He lived behind a pub in a caravan, we didn't do alot but I was a happy kid. I met her through her sister Maya (34f). And apart of me feels sorry for my mom for some weird reason too. Aug 26, 2023 · 12. I went to art school in collage and while I have/had a stable supportive family the sheer number of young adult who have been treated like garbage by their family for being LGBTQ and/or wanting to go to school for something "useless like art" is staggering. Make him question if it's a test or reality. i hated when my father who had abandoned me at a young age would come back into my life and be all sorry and feel bad and all that. We actually never got along even before I was kicked out. The longer you let this go the better their claim that you abandoned and allowed it to happen will be. 1. I hate the fact that my father abandoned me and left me with this disgusting people too. Send screenshots of your convo with him so they know you're legit. Drifted apart but always came back to each other like nothing ever changed. Soma Lovly · Original audio Intrepid-Cobbler335. What ungrateful shits. I thought I was dead to you. I enjoy making my own breakfast and dinner and even lunch if I have no school. My sister had effectively disowned everyone in the family. 5 years older. Triplets. When I found out how successful they were, it made me feel even worse. My parents found out from my uncle (dad's youngest brother - the only person from that side of the family I have a relationship with) that I was back in the country. Some old people deserve to be abandoned in retirement homes. I feel like after what happened I just need to lay it all out. I think it must be people who don't love anyone or have someone who really loves them and they view people as bad because of it. Your mother could have done it instead if spending your money on booze. I thank you so much. Now I feel completely alienated from everyone and I'm not sure what to feel. I treat them well, but they abuse me. My sister was diagnosed with multiple autoimmune conditions and needed support. So I (16M) still live with my family, obviously. They threw a living, feeling creature away, one that wasn't used to being outdoors, because it was no longer convenient to them. He even stopped seeing his daughter for a bit. I got abandoned by my family after surgery, Am I missing something? NSFW. And they kindnaped 100% and withholding her from you is a crime. He was no longer allowed to see my boys. Her reaction to it is her fault. If I'm trying to push my key up to get up to a 20 for the week and the group dies twice on Wise Mari, my key is not going up, so I will find a group who can push it up. I don't deserve forgiveness but I wish I had the courage to ask for it. Dogs I great and I love the shit out of my dog and my dog has a great life. That's a contract that you had no say in. Im sorry they reacted this way and treated you so terribly. I feel sorry, sorry for myself, and sorry I fly away. They literally threw you away. I hate living with them and not getting a well-paid job to get out of this freaking household. In hindsight and to give her the benefit of the doubt she was dealing with her own major mental health struggles, I remember witnessing her anxiety and infrequent panic attacks from a young age. The brief synopsis of the story is that my Mum left our family to live with some dude she worked with when my twin brother and I were 14. And said to me if I can show any photos from the doctor. THEY owe YOU everything. Apart from my daughter I prefer solitude Jan 8, 2024 · Replying to @redditfeeds Update 2 - I abandoned my family because they deserved it #redditstories #reddit #redditstorytimes #redditreadings Family members think I'm being a self centered, spoiled brat as usual (they all blamed me for my parents divorce when I was 14, because I didn't do enough housework, which is crap because my Mom had me cleaning the bathroom, doing most of the chores by the time I was 6). They divorced when I was 2 (I think). TikTok video from Reddit Videos (@redditfeeds): "[UPDATE 2] I abandoned my family because they deserved it #redditfeeds". Tell them, they deserve to know about you and that he abandoned you. It's just that I carried years of sadness at being abandoned. I abandoned my family because they deserved it My mom had not had any contact with her either. You practically raised yourself. Reply reply. 296K subscribers in the AmITheDevil community. I completed my degree and was immediately forced to have children I refused and told my husband I It's a tragic situation, really. Speaking from experience, the first year of therapy is a lot of realization of the toxic behavior of family and abuse may come to light as well. They deserve a public shaming. when i joined my old school, i was alone, and never really made any friends for a long time until my last year, other than a nice christian kid. Rant/Vent. I know he doesn't want the baby now, I know it seems like he never will. apologize once, be a good positive presence in her life, and don’t fuck up again. The lady who adopted me (my mother) is Italian/American, and my father is British. original sound - Reddit‘s Stories. The only thing they gave me was a name. Let his mind break itself It's me. Glad you're taking no shit from your ungrateful family and bailed. But plenty of parents who don't want their children turn into parents who view the child as an extension of themselves, a thing to own and control. ' when he joined he was a chill guy, and i helped 11M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. I am 32F and my parents had me when they were 20. Family abandoned me. I grew up in my relative's home and got married off before I could complete my education, the reason they openly stated was that they don't want me to have any options in life. It can be hard. My sister wasn't much better then my parents. A man said to the Prophet ‎ﷺ, “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. But you owe them nothing. They are my world. New wife made some changes. I ghosted my family a few years ago. They didn't know how good they had it with their free iPhones. We thought she had been kidnapped and waited around for hrs just to see her walking away on the security video. You'd have to ask them about anything further because they refuse to speak to me for the sin of being born. I am no one to keep them from who they consider dad, they deserve the best, it’s their right. My parent kicked me out when I was 16 after I came out to them. Then he remarried. Really. Then pretend nothing happened after: deny that it ever even happened. Brother has since given his portion of custody to my mom, who he claims is the worst parent ever and that she completely ruined his life. You see this comment every time there is a video of a dog. She wouldn’t hit him but it would have hurt less if she did. Brother (32M) abandoned my niece (12F) because his wife doesn’t like her. DAE. I just hate them, my mother and sometimes my grandmother has abused me physically, mentally and emotionally. Ex abandoned our kids yrs ago and now lives 10 min away. In mid 2016, shortly before my own wedding, my mom let me know my sister had finally reached out. Me (35m) and Maria (33f) have been together for maybe 5 months but have known each other for 10+ years. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me. It is a common domestic violence tactic. My mother was only a legal resident because of my dad. I have chores just like my siblings. They were Posted by u/InnocentlyDistressed - 366 votes and 53 comments A lot of single parents decide they don't want the other parent's money, in order to cut ties, or avoid hardship, or whatever. Spend time with him, and reserve your resentment. She lost more than I ever knew. Tossed you away like you meant nothing, because to them, you didn’t. 7. I (21m) am going to abandon my family. Me: Wait why are you calling me. Sacrificial-poet. The thing made me really angry was him and his mother. If they were smart they would have pretended to reconnect with you then butter you up then ask. Ever since I was a child I have been met with abuse from my mother. I'm glad you're alive, and I'm glad your anger is getting validated. TLDR: My niece ran away after being verbally attacked by my brother’s wife. All you/they can do now is to be supportive and do the best that can be done at the time, with the resources. When I told them point blank that was never going to happen. SgtSlaughterEX. So this happened Sunday. They had no need of you when you were little. My bf even remembers that Yeah I’m going through it honestly… I have a lot of mixed emotions. They made me into the mess I am today and I will forever resent them for that. What they are doing is prolonging how long he has to pay your child support…. We were back in South Africa. He paid child support to my mother, month after month, and always on time. I'll give some context first as the situation spans almost 2 decades. This her 2nd bd she lost now. Because if you win (which you will) they will have to pay some form of support. They do this to make you feel helpless, and to deflect the blame from what they did so that they don't have to feel guilty for their cruelty. I have three kids - two boys and one girl. Last night, my boyfriend went out with his “brother and friend” but actually went out with his brother, his girlfriend and all her friends. They had tough childhood and decided to finally make up for it. I finally told someone the truth about the Lifewithadaemon. I have gotten a lot of therapy and i am fairly stable. I will be in debt with everyone forever for all their help. Me: Dad. You just feel sorry for yourself like a baby. I was really ungrateful and whiny, and my mom was straight up abusive. They don’t understand me and they have alienated me, gaslit me, called me… I abandoned my family because they deseved it #reddittreading #redditstorytime #redditposts #redditmemes #reelsviral #reelsinstagram #realtor My grandparents own a dog and I have to pay for the walker, vet, medicines and lashes (because somehow they lose it every couple months). Even if no one reads this or if people make light out of it. They came to the conclusion in order to do that they ADMIN MOD. I did the most cruel thing I could think of to drive him away. 22 votes, 29 comments. I abandoned my family because they deserved it #shorts #reddit #story Several people have guilted me for doing this, saying my parents don't deserve to be abandoned by their own child, but it doesn't really phase faze me currently. You should know and understand the potential consequences though. We’d been friends since we were 14. They didn't. Kinda long sorry. Go to the dept of social services and have them help you file for child support. They don't deserve to have a mother who doesn't love them, and I don't deserve to have to deal with them. if i can give some advice here, it would be to let go of your guilt and just enjoy it. Business, Economics, and Finance. I recently found a job, using my degree I got a job that pays roughly 45K a year (Out of state) through a friend. I am however a different person now, i have a hard time trusting people. My stepfather had married my mother and they had a child, then divorced when that little one was just a few years old. ”. They like pets, they just don't feel they need much more than food and water because they grew up like that. I’m not saying this is always the case, and I’m not saying they deserve to starve or something. Today I'm going to leave my family. My in-laws own 3 dogs and my bf also has to take care of a lot of things. According to my mom, my sister was very isolated with few I (19f) haven’t gotten along with my parents for a while, about two years. You deserve better, and they don't deserve a second more time in your life except that required to reclaim it from them. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. At this point your family most likely has no idea what happened and you did not, I repeat, did not, abandon your mother and siblings. I live at home with my parents, college drop out sibling, and elementary schooler sibling. And my father was never really there for me growing up. Fast forward, 10 years later. Forgive at your own discretion, but take it from me - hating him will do your mind, heart and soul no good. I ran over nine hundred miles away because I'm afraid to let him love me the way I love him. I believe the only reason they had kids was because they felt like they need to. My Dad Abandoned Us and I don’t blame him. Every time there’s an old person who’s been thrown into a home, or who has to live alone with no help, people blame their children for not being there for them. I can't believe how unfazed I was reading that. I feel like all my friends abandoned me after I had a mental breakdown. sm iz iv xx rg ez do ev no ig